No Two Kids Are Alike

"No two kids are alike"

 (Emrie Delayne 2 weeks old)

 

 (Aven Rhyse 2 weeks old)

I have heard that phrase 100 times, but until I had my second daughter, it never really sank in. If God taught me a lot by having one child, he has taught me twice as much by having a second!

HEAR ME: I LOVE BOTH OF MY GIRLS THE SAME AMOUNT ~ BUT ~ I LOVE THEM DIFFERENTLY!

I love them differently because they are different people with different personalities, different quirks, different strengths and different temperaments. But I love them both so much my heart might explode!

Like any parent who loves their kids to pieces, you just want what is best for them, and here is where I struggled.

I was hung up on the idea that the 'best' for Aven was the same as the 'best' for Emrie. Maybe it's because they looked so much alike at birth, but I really just kept thinking that I was meant to raise them the same way.

Yet again, I was wrong (duh)

"No two kids are alike"

Comparing the girls to each other was hurting my relationship with BOTH of them. 

See, I expected Aven to be rolling over, sitting up, eating, crawling, etc. in the timing that Emrie was doing those things (Emrie was a super early EVERYTHING baby, like walking and talking at 9 months kind of kid). Aven wasn't sitting until 6 months (I know, still TOTALLY normal), but compared to Emrie, she was behind.  This made me anxious and I started feeling guilty as a mom that I wasn't giving her enough attention.  Emrie was eating baby food (as in leaning out of the chair reaching for the spoon and slurping it in) at 4.5 months.  Aven is just now getting the hang of swallowing the food at 6.5 months and it made me frustrated with her that my efforts weren't paying off.

 (This would be Emrie holding her head up at 3 weeks...Always looking around)

 

(Pretty much sums up Emrie...'I NEED TO SEE EVERYTHING')

(5 month pictures...sitting by herself)

(9 month pictures...Later that day walking for the first time...she hasn't slowed down since)

Likewise, comparing Emrie to Aven upset me because Aven is so laid back and easy going and Emrie is high energy and a bit strong willed (she is also 2)!  While Aven is content to sit and play with a single toy for 45 minutes, Emrie has already unrolled 2 rolls of toilet paper, clogged the toilet by shoving them in there, asked for a snack 20 times (the kid still likes to eat), colored an entire coloring book, and is now sliding off the back of the couch! And Emrie has been that high energy since she was in my womb...the kid NEVER stops! I find myself wishing that she would be more like Aven and JUST SIT!

(Aven at 1 week...Poor thing let me shove her in a wicker basket for this picture and didn't even fuss!)

(Aven ~ 6 Months)

Finally my AHA moment came when Aven started sitting up.  It sounds dumb and yes, it took me 6 months to internalize this, but when Aven started sitting up, I realized that she is going to do all the things that are 'best' for her WHEN it's best for her! And my role as both of their mom is to

LOVE THEM FOR THEM

(Emrie ~ 18 months)

(Aven ~ 4 months)

Not for how they are better than their sister, not for how quickly or quietly they can do something!

I am thankful I have BOTH my girls and that they are different because their differences are helping me grow into a better mom and a better person. 

 

I just pray that I can help them grow into the little people they are meant to be!

 

 

Project Shutterfly Completed

Ahhh...you know that really good feeling when you have completed a project?

Well I just finished our 2012 family year book AND IT FEELS GREAT!

I make one every year (I have one from every year starting when I was a freshman in high school...yep I just completed my 14th year book!!!!) I used to do the whole Creative Memories thing, but let's be honost, that was expensive, time consuming, messy and took up a whole lot of space! Now I do the digital thing on Shutterfly and LOVE IT!

I start my book at the begining of the year and add to it as I take new pictures. It makes it so easy to keep up so at the end of the year I just wait for a 50% off sale and hit print (this time I even cashed in a whole bunch of our 'gifts to grow' Pampers points and got free 12x12 book)!

Couple of weeks later, our 'year in pictures' shows up on my door step and I have those memories forever! Emrie gets a kick out of looking through the books too.

Here is a link to our most recent 2012 book:)

I became THAT mom

November 23, 2006.  Thanksgiving. Phil and I were sitting in his parent’s basement, less than one month before our wedding, looking through Black Friday ads when we saw the T.V. we had JUST bought was on sale for $1000 less than what we had just spent.  We made the decision to drive the hour to hhgregg to get the deal.  That was the one and ONLY time I ever sat in a parking lot starting at midnight (yes we were first in line, yes we did walk in only to have the guy tell us that it would have been a simple price match and we could have done it at any point throughout the day…Wah Wah).

I vowed I would never do something stupid like that again…UNTIL YESTERDAY! I officially became ‘That Mom’.

I am not sure how I feel about the whole situation yet; if I agree with my actions or not, but I did it none-the-less. 

5:00 am - I woke up, got myself ready and packed the diaper bag and car.

5:20 am - Aven woke up (on her own) so I fed her, dressed her and put her in her car seat and rocked her back to sleep.

5:50 am – Emrie woke up (on her own) and I fed her, dressed her loaded both girls in the car.

6:05 am – Drove to ‘the church’.

6:10 am – Walked into the church with both girls bundled in the stroller.

6:10 am – Sit down as the 20^th person in line to WAIT!

WHAT AM I DOING YOU ASK?

WAITING TO SIGN MY KID UP FOR

PRE-SCHOOL!!!!....

FOR NEXT FALL!!!!!!!!

Oh, sign ups don’t start until 8:00 am, but when I mentioned that I was thinking about pre-school for Emrie, my girlfriend said, “oh, you have to get there early for that one.” When I said, “early? Like 7:30” she laughed and said, “the doors open at 6:00, you better be there then.”

Needless to say, 19 people were earlier than me and of course I was THE ONLY NUT JOB TO BRING HER KIDS!

7:45 am – The registration sheets were passed out.

8:00 am – Registration sheets were collected.

We sat there for almost 2 hours (the girls were fantastic…books and the iPad will do that for ya), filled out our sheet and went home to wait for an e-mail to see if we even got in.

As we were sitting there I talked to some ‘seasoned pre-school moms’ (they had several older kids and were there to sign up their youngest) and apparently this practice of waiting in long, early lines for pre-school is very common. They said in NC they had to wait all night once for a pre-school…WHAT!

Again, not sure how I feel about this whole charade, or my part in perpetuating the chaos, HONESTLY, I'm not even sure how I feel about pre-school (Phil and I never went to pre-school) but I did it and now the wait begins…

I feel like I’m waiting for a college acceptance letter…DEAR LORD, IF THIS IS JUST PRE-SCHOOL PREPARE ME FOR THE YEARS AHEAD!!!

Any moms with advice, or opinions on this whole deal?

California Dreaming

We went to California from January 5^th - January 14^th to see my family.  I flew by myself with the girls (see this post about how that went) and Phil met us there later in the week.  We stayed in a gorgeous beach house in San Clemente and had a wonderful time…

Seeing old friends (Lesley and Peyton…gosh I wish we lived closer)

 

 

 

 

 

The house

 

 

Walking along the beach 

 

 

The Meals

 

 

 

 

Walking around Dana Point

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

'Swimmng' in the Jacuzzi 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mani/Pedis and Shopping with my Mom and Sisters 

 

 

 

 

Meeting My New Nephew Brody 

 

 

 

Hanging Out With My Little Family 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hanging Out With My WHOLE Family

 

 

 

 

Cousins Spending Time Together

 

 

 

 

Just Being An Albini Kid 

 

 

LIVING THE GOOD LIFE

Calm Down

For the first time in days my girls are napping at the same time.  For the first time in weeks (other than while on vacation) I don’t have something that HAS to be done for tonight or tomorrow (maybe by Sunday or Monday, but not TOMORROW). AHHHHH DEEP BREATH!!! Which brings me to my post…

WHEN WILL LIFE CALM DOWN??????

Recently I have been on this roller coaster of BUSY! I know, I know, it will only get worse as my kids get older, but jeepers creepers I feel like a mad woman NOW.

Since October I have been living on a day to day basis; waking up at the crack of dawn (usually earlier, way earlier) and staying up long after the girls go to be (usually way later).  I don’t ever get REALLY behind on stuff, but I’m never ahead; stuff gets done, though usually at the eleventh hour (or 11:45 J).

To bore you with the mundane lists of things I’ve had going on would be ridiculous, you have your own lives, you know what I’m talking about.

WHEN WILL LIFE CALM DOWN?????

Life will calm down when I learn to say NO!!!

Life will calm down when I learn that I don’t have to do everything, I don’t have to be involved in everything presented to me, I don’t have to have a clean house,  I don’t have to be on top of things!!!

Life will calm down when I realize I DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT!!!

Life will calm down when I learn to be PRESENT!!!

Life will calm down when I learn to say YES to the important things and put the rest on hold!!!

Here is what I want to say YES to

 

 

 

Flying with Toddlers

DISCLAIMER*** I am not an expert on parenting, or traveling and I am likely to eat my words as soon as I publish this post, so get ready to laugh at me:)

I flew to California by myself with both girls last Friday.  It was a 2.5 hour flight to Dallas, a 2 hour layover then another 2.5 hour flight to San Diego with a 6 month old and just-turned 2 year old.

Now, I have flown by myself with just one of the girls a handful of times and I have flown with Phil and both girls once, but this was the first time by myself with both girls.

I compare flying with kids to starting a house project; I just expect it to go badly, cost more money and time than budgeted and give way more headaches than anticipated. That way anything that goes better than a disaster is a sucsess!

VERDICT: IT WASN'T SO BAD!!!!

Everyone has their own traveling style and their parenting style, and every circumstance can change (ie acts of God or stupid delays), but here is what I did and it worked great for me.

I am a minimalist to the max!!! I only packed 1 suitcase for all three of us for our 9 day trip. I didn't bring a stroller. I only brought enough diapers and formula to get us through a day of travel (I went shopping for those things when I got there). I only brought 1 blankie for Aven. While it would be nice to have some of those convenient tools to bring with you (it's hard for me to live without a Bumbo) YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT THEM!

When we got to the airport I wore Aven in the Bijorn, wore the diaper bag cross body style, slung my purse on my shoulder and held Emrie's hand while she walked. In my other hand I dragged the suitcase with both car seats stacked on top of it.  I checked the car seats and suitcase and headed for security.

I took care of Emrie first (she wasn't required to, but she wanted to take her shoes and jacket off), then took my stuff off and I was allowed to wear Aven through, which helped a ton. They ran a scan on the liquids (bottles) in my diaper bag and we were off.

We did not sit down once we got to our gate. I had Emrie's walking around as long as I could so she could get her energy out.  Boy, those moving walkways were a God send.

Here comes the tricky part...IN THE AIRPLANE!!!

Emrie had her own seat, but Aven was on my lap which can be a little challenging, just because you need your hands to hold the baby but of course the toddler needs your help with everything too.

I brought coloring books and crayons (they have to be old school) for take off and landing when the electronic devices have to be stowed. That bought me 15 minutes. Then I used the iPad with puzzles, games, books and a couple shows to keep her entertained. The beauty of the iPad is that you have all sorts of entertainment with minimal space.

I'm not big on snacks typically, but I brought some which helped (especially when she started getting too chatty :).

The layover was fine because we ate lunch and walked around.

During our second flight is when I realized something I wouldn't have thought through before...IF AT ALL POSSIBLE AVOID SITTING IN THE BULKHEAD! The key to surviving a flight with toddlers is to keep them busy, but if you are in the bulkhead ALL of your bags must be stored overhead...stripping you of your 'stash' to keep them busy (not to mention bottles, diapers, and snacks). Sure you might get a little extra room, but at the cost of all your 'tools'.

How did I survive this unforeseen challenge? I laid Aven on her blanket on the floor at my feet and let her kick around and play with my empty water bottle. I convinced Emrie that she needed a nap (I gave her a binkie and covered her face with her blankie). Thankfully, she fell asleep for an hour so I only had to entertain her for about an hour after that (good thing I have some books memorized).

Ultimately, just come as prepared as you can and be ready to roll with the punches. In the end you'll get where you're going regardless of the process!

Happy Flying!!!!

Hello 2013!

With a new year, comes a fresh start.  But really, fresh starts are DAILY, actually they are more often even, when we are made new in Christ.  That is really my focus this year (as it should be every year, month, day...etc.) is to be made new in Christ!

Just as many of you have, I have been thinking a lot about my goals and dreams for 2013. Within the realm of being made new in Christ, a more specific theme keeps coming back to me: "Family". Not just my own immediate family (although they certainly are a priority), but this year I would like to do something that I haven't been very good at for a while, which is to connect with my extended family, specifically MY SISTERS!!!

Maybe it's because I am now raising sisters of my own, but I truly see the value in the sister relationship and I am sad that I haven't invested in those relationships as much as I should have over the years. But like Revelation 21:5 says, "I am making everything new" and it isn't too late to start.

My sisters, through blood and marriage, are going to have a HUGE year in 2013: Two are about to (or just did) enter motherhood for the first time, one will become a wife, one might be moving across the country, one has decisions about college and her future...and those are just to name a few!

The challenge to growing my relationship with my sisters, is that we live all over the country, rather, the world, from Arizona to California, to Australia.  But, if you know me, you know I'm a 'Doer', so naturally I had a game plan to facilitate my goal and my sisters and I started a Bible Study on-line through Facebook. We read the same Bible Study and scripture (www.shereadstruth.com) and then we discuss what we've read on a private Facebook page.

The first day of our study we read Geniuses 1 and one thing I took away from the story of Creation is that God made us to be relational. He himself is relational, having three parts; father, son and spirit. He also made Adam and Eve for each other. I don’t believe we are meant to be alone.

So, this year I want to let Him make all things new with a priority on my relationships; My relationship with Jesus, my relationship with my husband, my relationship with my girls and my relationship with my family, specifically me sisters.

I am super excited to study God’s word alongside these wonderful girls as I know it will build each of our relationships together, and ultimately our own relationships with Jesus!
I can't wait to see what 2013 brings for us!

What is your focus this year?